As you know I've been adding some new segments to the blog that will become weekly features. I cannot believe what a success my previous post #FMOTW was. I am totally overwhelmed by it! Here is another new segment, it's my AgonySam column in which I answer your questions and try to help you out with issues life throws your way! You can get involved by either dropping me a Tweet @SamSquireBlog, or, you can send me an email with your questions samsquireblog@gmail.com. All information is kept anonymous, I will not share your name with any story!
I want a promotion in my new job, how do I ask for this?
– Anon
Hold your horses tiger, you ‘want’ a promotion but do you deserve one? Let’s not become power
crazy. At the end of the day,
progression in the workplace should be natural not forced. You say it’s a new
job, you need to prove to your boss that you’re worthy of it over the people
that have been there longer than you. What do you bring to the table
that no one else does and why is this progression quite so important to you?
Work out your priorities, more power means more responsibility and can mean more stress, do you want the
added stress or are you okay going along as you are? One thing I would say for
your situation is that you definitely should not even consider asking your boss
for a promotion, unless by promotion you mean new job.
I’m falling in love with my best male friend, what do I
do? - Anon
Before you consider doing anything, you need to think this
through. First off, the most important
question is are you really in love
with him or do you just think he’s a bit of alright? Second, how will this news
affect your friendship, you don’t want to be going somewhere that is simply
going to make things awkward! Finally, does he feel the same? I don’t just mean
is he a flirt or has he called you pretty, I am talking emotion. Love sure is a
confusing thing and at the end of the day, is it worth risking a friendship if
you aren’t sure what to do? This is something you personally have to work out
and answer; it isn’t something I can give you a definitive answer for because
it is so personal to you. Good luck!
I have low self esteem, how do I become confident and
happy in myself? - Anon
Personally I don’t understand why anyone should have low
self esteem; we are all great in different ways. You should never feel like someone is
better than you, of course you can see their strong points but we all have our
kryptonite, some are just better at hiding it than others! The main one I hate
is the image one, don’t let anyone make you feel like you’re ugly, because in
fact, they are the ugly ones. You will
simply get nowhere in life with an ugly personality, putting people down isn’t
great and only inflates their egos for a few minutes before they remember that
their life isn’t all that perfect!
I’m ready to move out from my parents’ house but I don’t
want to do it alone, what should I do? - Anon
This is big! First of congratulations, it’s great you can
admit to being ready, and to be quite honest with you, if you feel ready then I
highly doubt you need a friend to hold your hand along the way! It is a massive jump to make, suddenly you
have to do it all for yourself and experience life, but that’s awesome, there
is so much great stuff out there for you to see and experience so don’t let it
go to waste! If you really don’t feel like you’re strong enough to take the
leap on your own, I am sure you have friends in the same situation, why not
mention it? I am sure someone will notice your predicament and will feel the
same. Good luck in your move!
I want to go to university this year but I’m scared of
not knowing anyone, do you have any tips? – Anon
I didn’t personally want the university experience – don’t
get me wrong, I love a party but after a turbulent time in Sixth Form I felt
I’d had enough of institutional learning. However, I know this much, everyone
is in the same boat and that’s great – you all start fresh in a new city, a new
home to start the next progression in your life. There is no issue with feeling anxious at all
but I guarantee if you talk to any Universities about this then they will
reassure you that in that first couple of weeks you make some awesome bonds
with your fellow students. A really
great website for advice is ‘The Student Room’ if you Click Here then there is
some great tips on there, just make sure you ignore the bozo’s that naturally
feel the need to comment on forums – we yawn at them! Enjoy Uni, I reckon you’ll
be fine!